Some people are so caught up in his/her own world sometimes and think what is best for his/her is best for others as well. Maybe, because the subject matter is so familiar between circle of friends, that the person tends to have memory lapse on the issue and blur it out casually to other friends.
We need to be reminded sometimes that just because we have other friends of different ideology, religion, races, sexuality, gender or see things differently than us doesn't make them less human than others. We are more that what our preferences are! The preferences in life does not make anyone of us less human than the rest. There are more to a person than just what their preferences are!
We all need and deserves to be respected and treated the same as anyone else. Jokes and passing remarks about other preferences is degrading and very humiliating. "Ohh what a pity that he/she choose that lifestyle!" It is not a fucking lifestlye dumb ass. Its a life one choose to live and it is their life! What makes you feel if others say that to you. "Its a pity that she choose that lifestyle, that person or whatever! Wouldn't that hurt you when others dictate they way you choose to live your life? Would you like others to say that to you or your kids some day!
Doesn't mean that the person that you trusted can be trusted by others as well. Can't help feeling betrayed and very dissapointed.
6 comments:
MBA,
True, sumtimes people who are strangers to us and not in our circle of frens are quick to judge us/others based on our/their appearance and preferences as they dont know us. we cannot stop this for sure. but still, we want to be known/recognised by others with other things besides our preferences in life such as what we like, who we go out with and the places or food that we like as all of this does not dictate who we are inside as a person.
there are things we want to keep private and frens should understand that. there are things that i told my frens which shouldt be repeated to others in watever circumstances.
on the same note, as per our conversation between you and Mr. T yesterday,i always have my preferences in man, friends, books or anything else under the moon and the stars. however, i try not to be too restricted to follow my set of rules, priciples or "things that i want in a man" list and perhaps missed out the good things in life. if before no mamak stalls because the rumours of the stocking things came out, now i can go mamak whenever.
my point to the above is that i know and believe that there are more to people than what meets the eye and try not to quickly to throw judgment on others as i dont want others to do that to me. sumtimes "not to judge a book by its cover" is a bigger concept than we can actually chew and passing remarks sumtimes doesnt help in that matter.
pretty
i think everyone can be insensitive once in a while, be it close friends or not. it is when the culprit is someone close that it hurts even more.
disappointments are plain painful. the intensity of pain is very much dependent on the weight of the disappointment, and how close this person is to your heart.
i guess it boils down to how you see it. it IS shitty, no doubt, one cant help but feel betrayed, deceived, hurt, but what can WE do about it except deal with it?
yeah we're only human, but it doesnt mean you need to move a mountain to be nice to others. most times a little sensitivity goes a long way. like you said, sometimes people are just too caught up in their own world that they have lapses..
MBA,
*hug*
Pretty (not PU occay)
Thanks PU and CP. I know the remarks given sometimes are not meant to be hurtful however one needs to be a bit more sensitive and mindful toward others.
Anyway, why do people talk about you? Perhaps, you are becoming more popular ? Is it better to be talked about or not being talked about? I guess it depends what they talk about.The rule of thumb is, next time if we don't have better thing to talk about, talk about the weather...
Perhaps they have had a wishful thinking(nak kt ko la tu...), but their wishes may be not what you wish....and your wishes may be not the same with theirs...But ye la.....Is it a lifestyle? Ada Kad lifestyle ke?
whywhenitsnotme
MBA,
agreed, and i think sumtimes the words we spoke to our frens/others doesnt mean to be hurtful or degrading or to condemn, but frens/others can easily comprehend and see it that way, and end up being sad or hurt. that is normal.
also when people are caught up with their own lives and a bit distance with us, they might caught up in other things and thus i think it is our prerogative whether to tell our frens wat we think should be or the best thing to do. i think all of us need to be reminded because we care. thats the reason we chat amongst frens, because we care and we have their best interest at heart.
to end this, make love no war peeps!
have a great tuesday ahead!muahhh!!!!
pretty
Post a Comment